by Tayyiba Iram on Sunday, 14 March 2010 at 10:16
* Do something for somebody every day for which you don’t get paid *
Al was a smart man. He knew that generous acts benefit everyone, including yourself. The help you give others, no matter how insignificant it may seem, can have profound effects that you may never know about. Sometimes, just living as a good example has the power to inspire. Not quite as well-known are the physical and mental benefits that being a positive force can have for you. Stress decreases and causes less physical harm. Work and athletic performance improve. A positive attitude appears. And the mind is eased as troubles are put in perspective. Doing for others can be a small gesture (pick up trash, write a note of encouragement, mow your neighbor’s lawn) or an ambitious undertaking (volunteer, mentor a coworker, work with disadvantaged youth). Make a habit of thinking “What can I do today to make someone’s life easier?”
* How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong, because someday in your life, you will have been all of these *
Sometimes, we have a bad habit of looking down upon those age groups to which we do not belong. “Kids these days” really aren’t that bad. And try listening to those older than you; they’ll probably have gone through some of the same experiences and have some wisdom to share. We all go through days where life seems to be a struggle, where the road seems a little bumpy. Doesn’t it seem to smooth things out to have somebody there to support you? Why can’t you be that support for somebody else? Maybe a friend or family member is having a hard time with something; you know that your help and assurance would be a positive force for them. Lend them your hand, and come with an open ear. Listen more than you talk and do what you can to make their troubles a little bit easier.
* A kind word is like a spring day *
Want to put a smile on someone’s face, or make someone’s day? It’s easier than you think. All it takes is saying something nice. A compliment does things to a person’s self-esteem and state of mind that is immeasurable. What happens to you when a nice thing is said about you? You feel good, of course. But what gives a compliment an even bigger impact is when it’s unexpected. When someone comes out of the blue to say ‘good job,’ or a person you do not even know gives you a compliment, it’s likely to send you through the roof. And that’s all it takes to make someone’s day. So, if you appreciated a co-worker’s hard work, tell him about it. Congratulate your kid, or someone else’s kid, about her 100% on the science test. It’s a simple but powerful way to put a smile on someone’s face.
* Great opportunities to help others seldom come, but small ones surround us everyday*
Maybe you are waiting for some huge opportunity to prove yourself. Could you be overlooking the little ones that happen each day? It might not be performing some heroic act to save a life, but it could be taking a friend out to dinner who has had a tough week. Hold the door behind you as you walk into a store; let somebody out in front of you in traffic. These small acts of kindness may seem insignificant, but they just might bring a smile to somebody else’s face. If one small act can make somebody else’s day a little bit easier, why not try it? The favor will be returned to you in the long run.
* Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight: always try to be a little kinder than is necessary *
One of the best goals you can set for yourself is to be a little kinder than necessary. It can be easy to let stress build up and consume your daily life. When this happens, being kind can be difficult. So, tonight think about some ways to decrease your stress levels, making you able to be kinder than necessary tomorrow and on.
* No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted *
People usually talk of “spending” energy and time on others. As if once it’s used, it’s gone. But in reality, that effort is a powerful investment. It’s an investment because you’ll get more of both in return. When a match lights a candle, the match’s flame doesn’t shrink – if anything, it grows. In the same way, you’ll be even more inspired by building others up. The bonus is, they’ll also be better equipped to return the favor. Take action today to make someone’s life a little better. Come up with just one nice thing to do for each of the important people in your life. One little thing that can make all the difference. After all, what good does it do to improve yourself if you’re not going to do anything with it?
* Blessed is he who speaks a kindness; thrice blessed is he who repeats it*
This quote can be read in a few ways, and all of them are worth thinking about. First, complimenting and encouraging others is one of the easiest and most powerful ways to be a positive force in someone’s life. As long as you’re sincere, repeating that encouragement as often as possible can have effects that far outweigh the effort. Countless people have exceeded their own expectations just because others believed in them. Second, giving positive feedback works even better if done publicly. Take those kind words and repeat them until everyone knows the great things that this someone is doing. Third, we’ve all had kindnesses bestowed on us in word and deed. In return for that favor, it’s up to us to repeat that generosity for someone else. However you read this quote, the point is that there’s a kindness out there to be performed. And you’re just the person to do it!
*The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own *
Everyone has hidden treasures of talent and undiscovered potential. Everyone has something substantial to contribute. Why are these valuables still buried beneath the surface? Why don’t they shine through? Confidence may be an issue. By teaching someone a new skill, you can build that confidence. People need someone to believe in them. They need to know that if they take that first step out of their comfort zone, someone will be supporting them all the way. With small words of encouragement, with just a little extra time, that someone could be you. In some cases, others may just be unaware of their true abilities and potential. If you’ve never tried to shoot an arrow, how do you know you’re not the next Olympic archer? Concentrate on bringing out the best in others, and you’ll bring out the best in yourself. Then stand back and watch ‘em go.
* Kindness is difficult to give away because it keeps coming back *
Perhaps you’ve seen how an upward spiral can happen with your goals. With momentum and consistent action, success comes easier and easier until results start to exceed the effort you put into it. Well, the same thing can happen when it comes to being a positive force for others. One small action leads to another, which can lead to many. Your actions may inspire others to do the same, with far-reaching results that completely outweigh that first effort. You’ll probably have no idea how much of a total effect your actions will have. But that kindness will often be paid back two-, three- or even tenfold. If not from the person you helped, then from someone further down the “kindness” chain. So go try it out! Do a kind thing for the next person you meet, and see if you don’t get a positive return.
*We should give as we would receive, cheerfully, quickly, and without hesitation; for there is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers *
Think about the last time you received a gift. How excited did you get? Now think about the last time you gave a gift. How excited did you get? Both giving and receiving gifts can be a very exciting experience. Do you usually make a point to give something to someone else only during the holidays or do you give people random gifts? This week try to give someone a random gift. It can be something you make on the computer, a simple letter, a card, some stickers, a balloon…basically anything. Let people in your life know how much you appreciate them. Don’t feel like you have to wait until the next big event or special day. Make everyday special!
Kindness inspires Kindness!!!